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ADHD / ADD and the emotional experience

So I got this book:

ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life
Judith Kolberg, Kathleen Nadeau

and it’s a really very well organized book.  The organization of it is especially ADD-friendly.

I also ordered a copy of a friend’s ADD book,

The Disorganized Mind
Nancy A. Ratey

I want to compare the two books to see if one might be obviously better than the other, so that I can recommend the better of the two to people I know with ADD-type issues.  So far the “add-friendly” book is helpful for me and looks like it would be hard to best.

It’s occurred to me that ADD-type cognitive (dis)organization affects more than just the tangible logistics of my life… I think that ADD-type organization also influences my emotional life, influencing how I relate emotionally with my environment.  I’ve got procrastinated papers and errands on my desk, and I think I’ve got procrastinated emotions in my mind… I think I go through a lot of my day in something of an emotional stupor.  There are so many levels and layers of emotional experience… You can be engaged and happy and experiencing one set of emotions while at the same time you still have this partly dulled and repressed emotional awareness.  If the dulling and the repression is persistent and habitual enough you might never know it’s there because it’s so rare is it that you step outside of yourself and experience a different self.  That’s exactly what my recent reading (Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown, and now ADD-Friendly by Kolberg & Nadeau) is leading me to do.  Walking around with this different self-awareness is almost like an out-of-body sort of experience, but not in a manic or LSD-trip sort of way, rather in a stable and positive sort of way.

Living in a different state than my gf has been, I think, a big help, in that were we together, I would find a lot of comfort in physical intimacy…  I do need that a lot, but at the same time, maybe that wouldn’t be healthy for me right now, because, I think comfort can really restrict one’s growth and development.  If you’re comfortable and happy, you don’t have nearly as much pressure to look inside yourself and figure out what if anything might be out of alignment.  There is something to be said for just spending an extended amount of time alone with yourself, pressing back against the onset of space and time.